Your News is Your News

Since Simon & I got our positive pregnancy test we were really clear about how we wanted to tell our immediate family. We asked our friend Kelly to make some plaques for us which announced our news! This is such a lovely keepsake and great for the family to open up. 

Some of our wonderful family receiving the news!

When it came to telling the rest of our friends and family we were certain we wanted to wait until we had our dating scan. A few close friends learnt the news due to my ill health in the first few weeks and I'd like to thank them now for their support especially when I was so tired I could barely function. 
Personally I have found not telling people incredibly difficult especially those friends & family I see on a regular basis. 
What's even harder though is when people start questioning if you are pregnant, it's happened to me on a few occasions and makes me really uncomfortable. This is also true when it comes to celebrities, there is always so many reports of 'is she pregnant?' 'she's wearing a baggy dress' 'she's not had alcohol so must be pregnant'. I now say 'Leave them alone', it's their news'. 
What I'm really clear about since experiencing this for myself is it's my news to tell. I'll tell you when I'm ready and if I've not told you yet there's a reason for that. 

In fairness I didn't realise how important this was until going through it for myself so I apologise now to any friends I may have interrogated in the past. 

I'm clear, your news is your news! It's yours and your partners to tell who and when you want. Don't be shy about lying if you want to keep your secret until you're ready. It's got to be right for you. 

If someone asks feel free to make up a reason for not drinking or you feeling under the weather. It'll all be forgotten and you'll probably get a lot of 'I knew it' comments when you do share you news but that's OK and it'll all be over shadowed by the amazing news you're sharing with them. Just make sure you tell people when it's right for you! 

I'd love to hear how some other parents-to-be told their families and friends?

And now for something entirely different...

Having not written on this blog for a while, I'm now about to tell you why...after my challenge last year of running the London Marathon, I'm having a slightly different marathon this year. I'm pregnant!! 

Baby Smurch is due at the end of August and me and Simon are completely over the moon. We found out just before Christmas and shared the news with our immediate family on Christmas Day which was just the most wonderful experience. Naturally all of our family are delighted and very happy for us. 

Since Christmas Day it's been the longest month of symptoms (I'll speak more about that later!), trying to wear baggy clothes (yes I'm showing already!) and avoiding family and friends so we don't give the game away. 
Lucky for me it's been during January and nobody really wants to go out then anyway. 

But on Thursday we had our long awaited dating scan and after telling the rest of our family and friends can now share our news with the world! 

We had a bit of a scare at week 7 when I ended up in hospital as they suspected an ectopic pregnancy so we got a sneaky look at baby then. It was the most worrying time but after seeing babies little heart beat on the screen it was also a huge relief! 

I've decided to use my blog as a diary for our pregnancy and hope that it will also help other mums-to-be during what I have found is one of the most worrying times of your life! It's also very scary and you spend your life on Google searching if symptoms are actually expected and if you are 'normal'! I'm sure that there are plenty of answers out there but the world of pregnancy for a first time mum is a minefield! 

So as I embark of a new and different sort of 'training plan', I'd also welcome any comments you have when reading my posts. It'd be great to hear others experiences too!